You are not your father; you are worse!

 We so easily point at the mistake of those who have gone ahead; those who have fallen so visibly for all you see.

His father, my aunt, that pastor! Anyone we had looked up to and have seemingly failed, we easily somehow know what they did wrong and why they managed to fail.

The hilarious part is that though you see those mistakes, you fail to see the opportunities that presented itself to them and exposed that "tiny" flaw that caused a massive fall.

So, dear brother, even though you talk about what you think you see that they could have done better, you are ill-prepared to deal with them yourself. 

You have already failed because you do not see that you have a log in your eyes, yet you shout to everyone who wishes to listen that they have specks in theirs.

Who are we kidding?

Do you not know that It's just a matter of time before everyone sees 

That you didn't fall far from the trees you were pointing at?

Do you not see that, 

You are them....?

Do you not see, my dear that you are 

Just an accident waiting to happen?

How do we miss the little hints?

How do we leave them to grow into logs, massive, more intelligent and more sophisticated than their mistakes could ever be?

Do you not know that

if they knew what you know today, they may have a better opportunity of not failing?

Do you not know that

What you think gives you value is what you invest in, same with what your dad did. Same difference.....different values but the same results. You are your dad! And that's putting it nicely. You may just be worse than he ever was!!

Do you know that 

What you know now that they weren't privy to in their days will only make you more crafty.....but you will do the same thing they did, even worse?

You work hard, telling yourself it is to cater for the family and make a better life but you are so far that you don't know your wife and kids. Yet you tell yourself you're doing everything for them? Does that sound familiar? Why do I feel like you've heard that before?

Back from the office, yet you're on a call to your colleagues, rehashing all the events of the day. Your wife is at the tail end of the long queue to get your attention.  Your daughter keeps smiling at you and you keep waving back with one hand, the other holding your phone glued to your ear....until she sleeps off and you're out before she wakes the next day. Do you know who does that? Or are you in denial by telling stories of your married friends and their girlfriends? Does that make you better? Do you think you're better? Or the opportunity has just managed to dodge you?

Do you know that in the bid to get things done, you just might lose out on the most important things? Eventually,  we tend to forget the real reason why we are working our butt so hard. 

And we coast along....just getting things done....doing things....What do we need? Fuel, food, other bills.....

It's easy to fill up the space with work...and tell yourself there's no sin involved. But a home is built. A relationship is nurtured; A family is grown.

But remember, a home needs foundation....to capstone. 

A relationship needs nutrients and attention, watering and weeding.

All these so that the family can grow rightly. 

Else, it dies....or be nurtured by another; For Whoever has will be given more; whoever does not have, even what they think they have will be taken from them.”